Expert Interview
Video Interview: Iris Chen, Untigering
January 14, 2021
Description
In this interview, Iris Chen discusses
- Family of origin in a culture of “tiger parenting”
- The choice to depart from that mindset and choose another
- “Un-wiring” our prior selves; our prior patterns
- The importance of discussing a change in parenting directly with children
- What it means to rethink so much of our parenting journey, from our understanding of our roles as parents to how we perceive our children, their actions, and their motivations
- The rupture and repair cycle; encouragement for the parent who feels like too much damage has already been done
- The pushback we give ourselves, as well as the pushback we receive from our family members and friends — and how to navigate it, especially if the prior way seems to have “worked”
- How we know peaceful parenting really does work — and how we need to redefine “work” to remove a sense of control or power from our relationships with our children
The Experts
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Author, Untigering
Iris Chen
Iris Chen is an author, unschooling mom, deconstructing tiger parent, and founder of the Untigering movement. As an advocate for peaceful parenting and educational freedom for children, her mission is to inspire generational and cultural transformation, especially among Asian communities. She spent 16 years living overseas in China (land of the tiger parent!), but now resides in her native California with her husband and two sons. You can read more about her adventures in parenting and unschooling at www.untigering.com.
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