Discipline Without Damage: How to Get Your Kids to Behave Without Messing Them Up

About the Author

Dr. Vanessa Lapointe is a registered psychologist who has been supporting families and children for 15 years, both in private practice and through her previous work with the BC Ministry of Children and Family Development. She lives in Vancouver.

Dr. Laura Markham is the founding editor of AhaParenting.com and author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids.

In this easy-to-read, science-based book, parents, caregivers, and adults of all kinds discover how discipline affects children’s development, why intervention should strengthen connection not separation, and why the disciplinary strategies that may have been used on us as children don’t seem to be the ones that children in reality need. As a practicing child and family psychologist and advisor to the British Columbia ministry of children and families, Dr. Vanessa has seen it all, and she has navigated hundreds of tough situations with families. Drawing on scientific research and a wealth of clinical experience, she shows you how to put out the fire without dampening your child’s spirits; how to correct their behavior even as emphasizing connection; and how to discipline without damage.
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